Hello, Sarah Here. So far we have gotten two false alarm calls for placement. Both were for two children ages one and three. After we told people that we have had a few false alarms, the questions started pouring in asking about the process. How do kids come into care? What is the process of getting kiddos to foster parents? What do foster parents get to know? Who is all involved? This post is here to answer some of those questions.
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Good morning! Sarah here. We got THE call last night. It was about 8:00pm and we were resting on the couch when my phone rang. We didn’t think much of it, as it’s been 3 weeks since approval and no call. Imagine our surprise when the person on the other end of the line identified themselves as a calling with our agency! Cue the panic.
She was calling with placement of 2 children ages one and three. They were from a sibling set of four but were being split up. Did we want her to continue telling us about the children? Well… I looked at Alex with panic in my eyes and asked her if we would be interested in taking a sibling set. We had talked about it as a possibility, but now it was a reality!
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Hello, Sarah here. This is one of the most personal posts that will be shared, please bear with my sensitive emotions. This foster to adopt process has brought out some of the best and some of the most ignorant in people. This post is here to shed some light into why it’s not OK to ask every question that comes to your mind without thinking about how it may impact others around you…
People love asking about the foster to adopt process. “Where are you at in the process?” “What is the age range you are looking to take placement of?” “What did you have to go through to get approved?” “Didn’t you want to have your OWN kids?” Hold up on the last one! You just touched on a very sensitive topic. My fertility and what I want to do with it is none of your business. Most days I’m too sensitive to tell you to mind your own damn business. Today, I’m going to tell you why. Continue reading “7. Didn’t you want your OWN kids?!”
Hey there! Sarah here. WE ARE APPROVED! We got the email from our licensing worker last night as we were sitting down for dinner with a dear friend of ours. We couldn’t be more excited. Now we just have to meet up with our licensing worker to get copies of our license and get a few more resources that are available to us as foster parents. Well, that and wait for THE call. We are open to being called 24/7 for placement so it could be any point.
Alex here! As Sarah and I continue to play the waiting game (currently waiting to hear back to see if we have been officially licensed) I thought I would give you the last piece to the pre-screen puzzle. Classes. There are nine hours of pre-screening classes we had to take. Those nine hours were broken up into 3 three-hour classes.
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Sarah here. I’m sitting at my desk, bouncing in my chair, thinking of all the things we could possibly do to prepare even more than we already have. Do we need to buy more clothes in all the sizes in our age range? It’s a little chilly outside, should we buy jackets in various sizes, we don’t have this, that, and the other thing. What if we get a baby and we need more bottles? What if we get a toddler and need to rush to baby proof better than we have? What if, what if, what if.
Continue reading “4. The worst part… the unknown while waiting”
Alex here! After what seemed like an endless stack of paperwork came interviews, classes, and home visits I will reflect on the interviews and home visits here. When it came time to meet with our amazing licensing worker neither Sarah nor I knew what to expect. Sarah did a lot of online research and reading but there were still a lot of unknowns. Every state has its own set of rules and procedures so we were finding a lot of generic information. We both like to be prepared but how do you prepare for the unknown? Our licensing worker met us at our home one morning and all that we knew was there would be a preliminary walk through and then take care of some business. The walk through was very basic in the sense that she told us what we would need to pass the official inspection. Then we went over what would happen over the next few months. We also went through what paperwork we still needed. Sarah and I marked home visit one as a win and it felt great moving on to the next step.
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Hello, Sarah here. Preparing the room, what an adventure for our relationship. I’ve heard that doing remodels can strain even the best relationships. Looking back I am proud to say that we did not have any disagreements, squabbles, or harsh feelings toward one another throughout the whole process.
So, how did this process start? Well, first off, it took a couple of months. When we first started the process we knew that the office would be our child’s room. There were a few problems with that:
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Hello, Sarah here! A little background into how this process started, Alex and I were talking about becoming foster parents for the past year. We kept saying that we wanted to wait to start our family until after we got married. While driving home from one of our family’s Christmas parties, we asked ourselves “Why wait?” We have a room, we have love in our hearts, and we can support a child now! That following Monday, I reached out to a local agency to see what the process would entail. A little later that day I received a phone call from someone at our local agency that walked me through the different options: foster parent, special needs adoption, adoption. We had to talk for over a half hour while she explained the differences between the three. Special needs adoption confused me. The name says adoption, but first and foremost you are a foster parent!
Continue reading “1. Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork!”