It has been 2 months since Mama A and I shared an update on our story. To be honest, we needed to heal. We needed to heal from the pain of losing our little guy. Heal from the pain of embarking on a journey that turned our lives upside down without the support we were promised. Connect as a couple and discuss our future and what that would look like. Would we be done fostering? Were we done as parents? Would we get pregnant ourselves? Would we take a few years off? What were we going to do.
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Hey there! Sarah here. WE ARE APPROVED! We got the email from our licensing worker last night as we were sitting down for dinner with a dear friend of ours. We couldn’t be more excited. Now we just have to meet up with our licensing worker to get copies of our license and get a few more resources that are available to us as foster parents. Well, that and wait for THE call. We are open to being called 24/7 for placement so it could be any point.
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Alex here! As Sarah and I continue to play the waiting game (currently waiting to hear back to see if we have been officially licensed) I thought I would give you the last piece to the pre-screen puzzle. Classes. There are nine hours of pre-screening classes we had to take. Those nine hours were broken up into 3 three-hour classes.
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Sarah here. I’m sitting at my desk, bouncing in my chair, thinking of all the things we could possibly do to prepare even more than we already have. Do we need to buy more clothes in all the sizes in our age range? It’s a little chilly outside, should we buy jackets in various sizes, we don’t have this, that, and the other thing. What if we get a baby and we need more bottles? What if we get a toddler and need to rush to baby proof better than we have? What if, what if, what if.
Continue reading “4. The worst part… the unknown while waiting”
Alex here! After what seemed like an endless stack of paperwork came interviews, classes, and home visits I will reflect on the interviews and home visits here. When it came time to meet with our amazing licensing worker neither Sarah nor I knew what to expect. Sarah did a lot of online research and reading but there were still a lot of unknowns. Every state has its own set of rules and procedures so we were finding a lot of generic information. We both like to be prepared but how do you prepare for the unknown? Our licensing worker met us at our home one morning and all that we knew was there would be a preliminary walk through and then take care of some business. The walk through was very basic in the sense that she told us what we would need to pass the official inspection. Then we went over what would happen over the next few months. We also went through what paperwork we still needed. Sarah and I marked home visit one as a win and it felt great moving on to the next step.
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Hello, Sarah here. Preparing the room, what an adventure for our relationship. I’ve heard that doing remodels can strain even the best relationships. Looking back I am proud to say that we did not have any disagreements, squabbles, or harsh feelings toward one another throughout the whole process.
So, how did this process start? Well, first off, it took a couple of months. When we first started the process we knew that the office would be our child’s room. There were a few problems with that:
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Hello, Sarah here! A little background into how this process started, Alex and I were talking about becoming foster parents for the past year. We kept saying that we wanted to wait to start our family until after we got married. While driving home from one of our family’s Christmas parties, we asked ourselves “Why wait?” We have a room, we have love in our hearts, and we can support a child now! That following Monday, I reached out to a local agency to see what the process would entail. A little later that day I received a phone call from someone at our local agency that walked me through the different options: foster parent, special needs adoption, adoption. We had to talk for over a half hour while she explained the differences between the three. Special needs adoption confused me. The name says adoption, but first and foremost you are a foster parent!
Continue reading “1. Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork!”