WHAT COACHING IS
A Parent Coach’s job is to motivate and guide you toward being the parent you want to be. Parent coaching is customized support to help you identify what matters most to you as a parent and then make needed adjustments in your parenting. Parent Coaches typically meet once a week in person to discuss your parenting. Some identifying features of coaching include:
- Collaboration Your expertise as a parent is an essential part of the success of the coaching partnership. No one knows your kids the way you know your kids, and that knowledge is key to effectively addressing the challenges you face.
- Future-focused and Action-Oriented The goal of coaching is to help you achieve your preferred future. You need to know where you’re going if you want to make sure you actually get there. Do you want to stop yelling at your kids? Help your child become more confident? Feel less overwhelmed by the demands of a hectic schedule?
- Strength-based Coaching helps you identify your unique strengths, skills and resources so you can use them most effectively in moving toward your desired future. What we focus on grows; approaching challenges from a foundation of strength allows you to utilize your skills effectively while maintaining the positive outlook that allows for continual growth.
- Customized There is no “one size fits all” in parenting. You are unique, your family is unique and each situation will be assessed independently. Coaching typically runs 10-12 sessions, but again, this will be customized to your particular situation and preferences.
WHAT COACHING ISN’T
Sometimes knowing what something is not can be helpful in identifying what it is. Below are a few common misconceptions about coaching is. Parent coaching is not:
- Consulting Consulting assumes the Parent Coach is the expert and you are paying for their advice and suggestions (think “Supernanny”). While they do have knowledge and training that they rely on as a coach, the process is collaborative (see above) and relies as much on your expertise as a parent as it does on their influence as a professional.
- Counseling Generally speaking, counseling addresses past experiences and internal processes. While both can be relevant to coaching, neither is the focus. If you struggle to understand how or why you are where you are, you may get more from counseling. If you are ready to move forward into a new future, coaching may be for you.
- Mentoring/Apprenticing Mentoring or apprenticeship often pertain to learning new skills or honing them over time. A coach is not there to teach you new skills so much as to help you identify the skills you already have and help you put them to good use.
THE JOURNEY I AM ON
I have spent the last 2 years as a Foster Parent Champion working with foster families that are struggling with the day to day challenges that come with being a foster parent. This spurred me into action to move forward and become a Certified Parent Coach (R) with the Parent Coach Institute. I am currently attending the program to become certified and am only taking on clients that are used in my learning process.
If you are interested in signing up to be a client while I am in process of becoming certified- please email me at Sarah@TheFosterLane.com and I would love to work with you as I become certified.
If you would prefer to wait until I am fully certified, that is great too. Please feel free to peruse the resources available and email me at Sarah@TheFosterLane.com to let me know that you are interested in learning more once I have completed the certification.
However we connect, I look forward to getting to know more about you and your family.