Tag: adoption

62. Where we went

Good evening, family, friends, and readers. We disappeared. We folded into ourselves and our home due to stress and trauma taking over. I ended up having to take a break from work due to stress and our kiddos struggles were real. That is where we are. Foster care isn’t always sunshine and roses; in fact, it isn’t most days. Many days trauma jumps up … Read More 62. Where we went

18. Being Thankful

Alex here. Sometimes people surprise you with their kindness. Over the past few weeks, I have been blown away with the kindness of close friends and even a few people I have never met.

14. Why does he keep hitting himself?

“Why are you hitting yourself?” I’ve found myself asking this question out loud and following it up with an empathetic look and a “It’s OK if you are having big feelings. Big hugs to help you feel better.”  We have had the privilege/ sadness to see first hand what childhood trauma does to developing brains. It changes these kiddos in big ways that are … Read More 14. Why does he keep hitting himself?

12. We are not a treatment foster home

28 bruises. It took 28 bruises on Sarah’s legs within 7 days to admit that we were not the family for these boys. This was the easiest and hardest decision we have ever had to make.

11. We are MOMS!

Sarah here, Hello everyone! We can officially say we are moms. Wow, that is crazy! It has been about 5 and a half months we have been on this journey and the day has come! We got the call at about 1:30pm on Tuesday 5/10. There are two boys that need a loving home. Are we open. We talked about the situation that brought … Read More 11. We are MOMS!

9. What happens when kiddos come into care?

What happens when kiddos come into care? How many people come into their lives at once? What questions are asked when reporting suspected abuse/neglect? This post addresses those questions and more!

8. False Alarm

Good morning! Sarah here. We got THE call last night. It was about 8:00pm and we were resting on the couch when my phone rang. We didn’t think much of it, as it’s been 3 weeks since approval and no call. Imagine our surprise when the person on the other end of the line identified themselves as a calling with our agency! Cue the panic. … Read More 8. False Alarm

7. Didn’t you want your OWN kids?!

Hello, Sarah here. This is one of the most personal posts that will be shared, please bear with my sensitive emotions. This foster to adopt process has brought out some of the best and some of the most ignorant in people. This post is here to shed some light into why it’s not OK to ask every question that comes to your mind without … Read More 7. Didn’t you want your OWN kids?!

6. Approval!!

Hey there! Sarah here. WE ARE APPROVED! We got the email from our licensing worker last night as we were sitting down for dinner with a dear friend of ours. We couldn’t be more excited. Now we just have to meet up with our licensing worker to get copies of our license and get a few more resources that are available to us as … Read More 6. Approval!!

5. Classes, classes, and more classes

Alex here! As Sarah and I continue to play the waiting game (currently waiting to hear back to see if we have been officially licensed) I thought I would give you the last piece to the pre-screen puzzle. Classes. There are nine hours of pre-screening classes we had to take. Those nine hours were broken up into 3 three-hour classes.

4. The worst part… the unknown while waiting

Sarah here. I’m sitting at my desk, bouncing in my chair, thinking of all the things we could possibly do to prepare even more than we already have. Do we need to buy more clothes in all the sizes in our age range? It’s a little chilly outside, should we buy jackets in various sizes, we don’t have this, that, and the other thing. … Read More 4. The worst part… the unknown while waiting

3. Interviews and the final walkthrough

Alex here! After what seemed like an endless stack of paperwork came interviews, classes, and home visits I will reflect on the interviews and home visits here. When it came time to meet with our amazing licensing worker neither Sarah nor I knew what to expect. Sarah did a lot of online research and reading but there were still a lot of unknowns. Every state … Read More 3. Interviews and the final walkthrough